Tuesday, April 8, 2014

A lot to think about

There is a lot to think about today.  A husband in this group was diagnosed with ALS about a year ago.    I don't really know what else to say.  One of our friends put it well when she said that there isn't even a compartment in the brain for this disease.  Things are progressing quickly and it is hard to know what to do to help.  We are learning - learning that there are no dumb questions, that it is better to say that you don't know what to say or do instead of just leaving the family alone, learning that relationships can grow deeper than you ever thought they could.  He had a major setback this week and when I saw him yesterday he said he has taken a "mental hit".  We can help with meals, yard work, feeding, dressing…. but we can't help with "mental hits".  I hate that.  Also, a sweet friend who has been battling cancer for several years lost her battle this morning.  She was too young, her kids were too young, her work here wasn't finished.  Today my heart is heavy but through all of this I am learning that I am a good friend and that I have great friends and that pretty much trumps all of the sadness, the worry and the grief.

Sunday, March 30, 2014

Take aways from this weekend.  B loves turning 50, his birthday candles are propped on the kitchen window sill as a constant reminder.   My oldest son still needs my advice on the big things.  I have never had so much laundry that isn't finished as I do right now.  A bouquet of tulips can change my whole mood.  Milo snores, loudly.  I think I am good at my job but I am really nervous about an evaluation I have this week.  I still don't like scary shows.  

Saturday, March 29, 2014


Brian turns 50 Monday.  We had friends over last night to celebrate.  50 years of photos…. photos of good people, supportive people and memories of all kinds.  As we sat at dinner people would pick up a photo and ask about it or comment on it.  It was a very easy way for all of us to get a peek into the last 50 years, there was deep belly laughing, sweet stories and some looks that he had that only I knew were looks of a little sadness… missing someone, something or some time.  But isn't that great?  Wouldn't you rather miss those things than look back and think that you are happy it is over?  So the missing is good, too.  We were cleaning this morning and he looked in the sink before I took this photo and smiled and said, "50 years down the drain".

I found this today and love it.  

Tuesday, April 24, 2012

Mother's Day gifts

Oh my gosh - where has the time gone?  It has been more than a month since I have written anything here!  All is well and all are well.  We are ready for summer, for an easier schedule.  I set up the backyard table yesterday, we will eat most of our meals out there and that is one of my all time favorite things to do.
Today we made silk scarves for Mother's Day gifts at the pre-school, they are so beautiful!  Each one is so different and it was really fun to see what colors the kids would choose for their mom.  I brought them home tonight to set and rinse them, they were so nice hanging together on the line.
More soon..... and by the way, in 1 month we will have two High School Seniors in this house! YIKE!

Monday, March 19, 2012

the clothesline....

Yesterday morning the boys came downstairs and said they wanted to shoot baskets.  I asked them if they could wait about 30 minutes until the sheets that were hanging on the line were dry.  They assured me it wasn't a problem, they could shoot around it.   I went about my business and a few minutes later they came in and said they were sorry, but my clothesline had fallen..... "an accident".   I just said, "Well, let's go get the wet sheets out of the mulch and then you two can grab your wallets and head to the hardware store and get me a new one, it's fine.  Thanks for letting me know."  They left, they were laughing in the car as they pulled out of the driveway and I thought that something seemed suspicious.  I had let it go, they hung the new one and the wet sheets and it was over.  Fast forward to the evening.... I heard uproarious laughter coming from the the two of them hovered over Brandon's phone and when I snuck in the "huddle" to see what was so funny......  this video, footage of "the accident".

Monday, March 12, 2012

Selection Sunday

This group of boys.... or as Maddie calls them, "tweens".  They were at our house yesterday afternoon to fill out brackets, eat chili dogs (and then make wiener jokes), play an intense 3 on 3 tournament in the backyard and eat some more.  It always amazes me how boys have conflicts and they get resolved as quickly as they get started.  I have learned to let it happen, not get involved, keep a watchful eye but not be a part of the solution unless it is really necessary.  

Saturday, February 25, 2012


Basketball is wrapping up for the season.  We have been flying by the seat of our pants the last few months and now, we can all see the light a the end of the tunnel.  No games to play in this weekend, only ones to watch.  No early morning practices.  No uniforms that need to be washed.... BY THIS AFTERNOON!  
I have started reading Marley and Me, oh my gosh, we are living that book!  And this little seed, landed right outside my kitchen window as I was drinking my coffee this morning.  Landed. That's how this weekend feels, like maybe we've landed.  We have this song playing on the computer this morning.  
I hope  you have a really nice weekend.