Wednesday, October 27, 2010

a lull

There is a two week lull at the end of October - between sports, after conferences, start of a new school quarter.  Last night we were all home by 5:00 for dinner together, homework done by 7:00.  We had two hours of family time, telling stories about Grandpa's coaching days, watching a computer program B had made and just hanging out together.  A couple of years ago I made a concious decision to stop serving on boards, chairing committees, etc. until this house was not a bustling center for kids.  These are the nights I am so thankful for that decision, we took everything outside for dinner and built a fire in the chiminea.  B and I had a glass of wine, we all laughed, stayed at the table for a long time and the best part was that I felt relaxed and enjoyed the time.  A few years ago I would be hurrying through dinner, gritching about what needed to be done before I got home and then hustling off to some meeting.   Don't get me wrong, service is a very important part of what we teach our children, but service has to be from your heart and has to come from a good place.... why would our kids ever want to serve if it looked like "mean mom"?  So I am on committees, I step up when needed and I still make a difference - but there is a balance now.  I look forward to the years when and I can invest time, energy and heart into a cause that I feel strongly about.   For now, I am right where I need to be, doing what I need to do and it feels really good.

Sunday, October 24, 2010


When we had the twins everyone said it would be hard if one had success at something and the other one didn't.  How would we handle that, what would we say?  I have always thought that was one of the great things about being a twin, learning to handle disappointment with grace.  Yesterday was the Regional Cross Country meet, a qualifier for the State meet next weekend.  In order to make it to State, runners have to finish in the top 10 or qualify as a team.  It's pretty amazing how things always seem to work themselves out - I went into the meet thinking that B would have a hard time qualifying and M would breeze into the top 10.  I had prepared a pep talk, thought about how we would deal with it at home all week leading up to State, and I was also interested to see how they would deal with it.   Instead, I was humbled.  M ran first and finished 11th, she did not think she would be going to State.  B ran next and finished 7th - his biggest fan on the course was M.  She was hurting, tired and disappointed but at every turn I could see her cheering, pushing him and wanting it for him so badly.  He finished 7th, qualifying easily and hugging her.... huge.  I never ask what they say to each other in those moments when one is disappointed and the other makes it OK.   I've been told before, "It's a twin thing, you wouldn't understand", and that's OK with me.

The good news that we found out hours after the races, the team qualified so they are both going.

Tuesday, October 19, 2010


Originally uploaded by LeslieMc5
i am a fan. Although I will admit that I am not such a fan of the yard/garden cleaning. I love the cooking I do in the fall, and it feels kind of nice when it gets dark earlier and everyone wants to spend more time inside and at home. Filling the trunk out by the woodstove with blankets, playing more games together, sleeping with windows wide open - yes please! But the leaves - why do they feel so overwhelming every year?

Saturday, October 16, 2010


The guys were gone, so M and I spent the weekend together - just the two of us.  We watched 3 movies:  Sixteen Candles, Easy A and It's Kind of a Funny Story.  We did a little shopping, we ate out every meal except breakfast.  We laughed, talked, baked/ate cookies and had a really grand time together.  I offered that she could have all her girlfriends over for movies and a sleepover, she could invite someone to come with us, she could go out with her friends.... she wanted to spend the time with just me.  She's 15, she is so fun to hang out with and I was one lucky mama this weekend!
These teenage years are many things, but one of those is the slow realization that it is working, the foundation you have spent years building is taking shape and these young adults living with you are moving towards being able to do this on their own.  That is a good feeling, not sad or lonely, but a really good feeling.
We both decided that we need more girls weekends, I'm in every time.  The laundry can wait!

Sunday, October 10, 2010


It is starting to feel like fall around here - blankets and books are being moved to the treehouse, leaves are changing, fall scented votives from Waxman are lit, and football games are being monitored off and on in between yardwork and homework. "Mom - I think you will really like this song".... she was right.  I hope you are enjoying your Sunday.

Thursday, October 7, 2010

in the dark

My alarm clock goes off at 4:30 each morning, it has for the last 15 years.  The hardest part is getting out of bed, once I do that, the rest makes my day.  I get my running clothes on, have one small cup of coffee and then head up to the stop sign on the corner and we meet.  There are three of us right now, the numbers grow and shrink throughout the year, but 98% of the time there is at least one other person at the stop sign.  We run, but the running is secondary.  We talk, we laugh, we listen, we are there for each other.  It is a strange relationship, running partners - we can't see each other, it is still so dark, we don't work together, our kids aren't in school together, we don't talk much during the day, yet these are my people.  We have been there in sickness and in health, through richer and poorer, the good times and the bad.  Every word spoken in the dark is spoken in confidence, we don't even have to say that, it just is.  We are authentic among each other, they are oh so dear to me. There is one who I have run with the whole time, when I turned 40 I calculated that she and I have run an estimated 10,000 miles together.  She is on a college visit with her oldest right now, we have a lot of "running" to do over the next few years.
We have very few guidelines:
if it is raining so hard you can hear it from you bed, we don't go.
if there is ice, we don't go.
if there is lightning in the WEST, we don't go.
if the temp. is below 20, we check e-mail before we go.

Friday, October 1, 2010

Raku pics

This day had a lot packed into it!  Here are some pics from the Raku field trip, I think I liked the studio as much as the firing.  Here is link to my flickr page, there are a lot of pics from the firing and the studio on there.  I didn't want to fill this space with tons of pictures - just a few.  Tonight we went to the football game - I have a friend of many years and we have shared many stories, her daughter was up for homecoming tonight.  We have raised our children on our morning runs (that is thought for a whole other post) and it was really fun to be there to see her tonight.  So, I have included one picture of Jill taking a picture of her daughter and husband.  Have a wonderful weekend!